This book explores the ways in which "ordinary"§heterosexual people §habitually (and without malice) make homosexual§people invisible in §ordinary communication processes in Japanese§communities in §Japan and the U.S. I raise the question: What are the§scenes and §communication practices in and through which§homosexuality §becomes invisible or irrelevant to identification of§the self? First, I §explore the communicative style of being ordinary, §in and through §which heterosexuals habitually enact a complete lack§of awareness §of homosexuals. Second, while addressing Japanese§silence and §indirect and ambiguous communication practices, I§examine a direct §mode of Japanese communication called speaking §straightforwardly. Third, I analyze cultural§premises regarding §social and emotional selves associated with being§ordinary and §speaking straightforwardly. Fourth, I describe a§silencing form of §communication which cultivates gut-level discomfort§and fear of homosexuals. Fifth, I analyze Japanese heterosexual§male-§centered lovemaking scenes in ero-manga which provide§possible §sources of misunderstanding between males, females,§and male §homosexuals.